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How to Manage Your Stress When You Can’t Control Things


“Scattered and unfocused.”

“Physical pain.”

“No confidence.”

“Start but don’t finish.”

“People walking all over me.”


“No control.”

Farmers shared these words and phrases with me in reference to the stress and anxiety they experience on a daily basis.

I have a secret weapon that helps me with the stress and anxiety I experience in my farm life and I’m sharing him with you today — my psychotherapist husband, Marc Rott.

Marc has a private practice, in our small town, and there’s often a waiting list for patients to get an appointment.

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There’s a lot of misconception and misuse of the words “stress” and “anxiety.”

We all experience stress in our lives, but when does it become a diagnosis or symptom that affects our lives and decisions?

And the answer is “it depends.”

In the video, Marc talks about the difference between stress, anxiety, and ways to manage them.

He also talks about identifying what you can control and what you can’t.

When you can shift your mindset and identify situational stressors, you’re able to manage your stress and handle things you can’t control.

Now you might be asking yourself, “But Charlotte, you teach farm marketing, why are you talking about stress and anxiety?”

Here’s what I know — the more I’m able to manage stress and anxiety, the better my farm business is.

And if I have a tool that will help you improve your farm business, then it’s my duty to share it with you.

Creating a life with less stress means you’ll:

  • Feel more creative + confident + healthy + energized
  • Scale business with freedom and ease
  • Be more productive + focused
  • Enjoy talking with customers

Marc has helped me tremendously with establishing a healthy mindset.

And the more help I get, the more I’m able to live life with less stress. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to say I live a stress-free life, but as time goes on, as more stressors arise, I’m able to manage them and keep a happy, healthy balance even in the midst of chaos.

This is my hope for you, too.

Thanks for being here,


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  • Diana October 10, 2018, 11:36 am

    Hi Charlotte and Marc!
    Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to help us. I have been dealing with anxiety for a couple years. Not to go into to much detail, but my sister and father-in-law were both diagnosed with cancer in January 2016. I did my best to go with them to their appointments for about six months which consisted of an average of three appointments each week.
    I didn’t really have anxiety until after they were both doing well again. It doesn’t make much sense since the stressor is gone. Can you give some insight into why once the stressor is gone, the anxiety began and still exists?
    Thanks to God, both are cancer free and doing well.

    • Charlotte October 10, 2018, 11:59 am

      Hi, Diana,

      Thank you so much for taking time to comment. I’m so happy they are cancer free!

      I’ll check in with Marc on this and see if he can post here or perhaps email you if it’s more private. He’s the expert!!

      Take care and we’ll get back to you either way,


    • Charlotte October 19, 2018, 10:24 am

      Dear Diana,

      I’m glad that your parents are cancer free, that had to be a huge relief!

      In your comment, you mentioned that you’re struggling with anxiety even though you are not taking your parents to weekly doctor appointments and they are in remission.

      There, as you know, could be lots of reasons for your anxiety and it might not be from processing your parent’s cancer and all that was involved in the stressful experience your family has gone through.

      First I would suggest that you consider your own personal self-care. I know this might not seem like such a big deal but can really either increase or decrease symptoms. Check things like sleep time and quality, diet, relationship issues, conflicts, exercise and your level of fun.

      That’s where I always start with folks I work with.

      Once you’ve checked those areas, then spend time trying to figure out when you feel your stress increases and what might be triggering those times.

      If you find things/issues/people that are causing stress then it’s figuring out what to do with those stress producers.

      Please let me know if you have any questions.


  • Sue Wilmarth November 13, 2019, 12:46 pm

    Thank you Marc and Charlotte! I feel like I had my own session. Great tips and I look forward to utilizing them starting with sleep!

    • Charlotte November 13, 2019, 3:03 pm

      You’re welcome – keep your eye out for tomorrow – another episode on stress and anxiety and you’ll learn a lot!!

      Thanks for watching!!


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